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Here is a sweet question from Bob in Lincoln:
My girlfriend and I have been going out for a good while now, and it looks like it’s getting thoroughly serious.
We talked a little about the future one time, and since then, I haven’t been able to get the idea out of my head.
So, High/Secondary school romances, can they actually work after school is over?
Well. Judging by our various friends (because of course, we only keep up our various acquaintances to use them as specimens in our studies of human behaviour), yes, they can: many of our contemporary school couples are still going strong a decade and a half later. In other cases, however, circumstance/the inexorable march of time/inconvenient geography/Growing Apart/other people/boredom intervened; but frankly, all parties were probably better off as a result.
Just as you might no longer adore Ivor the Engine quite as much as you did when you were six, what you want from a relationship is likely to be quite different when you’re forty than when you’re fourteen. So the best scheme is really just to enjoy what you have right now and see how it pans out, because you will get to spend more than enough of the rest of your life worrying about the future. There’s something to look forward to, young man!
But readers, please do recourse to the comments to chip in with your opinions as to what Bob in Lincoln should do, or if you would like to satisfy our nosiness by spilling the beans about your own school romances. Lest you care, our own experiences of such went thus: Olly is now shacked up with the lucky lady whom he first dated when they were at school, although she did get a few years’ respite in between; Helen jettisoned her long-term boyfriend a week before going to university, which proved to be a thoroughly good idea; and Martin the Sound Man never even saw a girl till he was nearly twenty.
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Answer Me This! Podcast 
March 25, 2010 at 4:03 pm |
My parents met when my Mom was only 16 and my Dad was considerably older, and despite not many people wanting them to stay together and my father working away for 6 months before their marriage, they’re still going strong as are the parents of my close friend who have also been together – since they were about 14!
Go for it is my advice! (:
March 18, 2010 at 8:32 am |
Well, I have been on and off with a boy I’ve known since high school and though we split due to him being in San Francisco and me in San Diego. We still have long chats and I even travel and spend weekends there. I feel like long distance and separating because of university may hurt a sexual/couple relationship, but if you two remain friends and connect there could still be hope for the future. We’re not together now, but he’s still the person I am closest to and still think about and it’s been almost four years since high school! Maybe in future we’ll find our way back to each other romantically, but either way I want him in my life even just as a friend until I’m 90!