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Lady Luck prefers not to bestow lady-luck on Joe in Seattle, as we have previously documented. Behold his latest woman-woe:
I have written in recently inquiring about the intricacies of how to tell if somebody doesn’t want to go on a second date with me. Believe it or not, I have successfully had repeat dates in the past, sometimes for years on end. My most recent ex and I broke up last June and are still good friends, but recently she has been suggesting going on a trip together.
I have no objections to this except that I think it might be a disaster. I am worried that we might spend the whole time butting heads over both inane, pointless disagreements and larger assumptions that we thought we shared about what we would do on the trip. It’s a lot harder to deal with that when there’s no sex at the end of the day.
So answer me this: how do I tell her that I think this is a bad idea without hurtfully saying, “I don’t want to go on a trip with you”? I can’t keep dodging the question forever.
Readers, take a trip to the comments right now and advise Joe in Seattle as to the best rebuff. Based on one thing we already know Joe (he’s a musician), I’d suggest intimating to her that you can’t afford a trip right now (based on one thing we already know about most musicians – they’re rarely rolling in spare money). Based on another thing we know about Joe (he’s in the USA), I think he could alternatively pretend that he’s saving his vacation time for later (based on one thing we already know about most Americans – they are allowed about ten minutes’ annual leave).
I’m more curious to know why Joe’s ex is so keen to take a trip with him, anyway. The break-up is still a bit too recent for them to be recast as just good old friends, with no awkwardness or residual tension. Is she perhaps hankering after a Joe re-run?
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March 27, 2013 at 6:35 pm |
Hmm. I’d say don’t rebuff. Sort out an itinerary in advance, and make yourself not care if it changes a bit. Just enjoy the cuddles this girl is clearly in the mood for as recompence for the changes-of-mind. After nine months apart, the sex should be amazing anyway.