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Resist the temptation to smack the bottom of our next correspondent Nick, for you may not like the consequences:
I’m on study abroad in the Netherlands this year. I’ve met a lot of good people here, one of whom is a particularly good friend from Canada.
He and I and a couple of other friends are in Budapest for the weekend. Tonight on the way back to our hostel from a night out he kept hitting me in the arse (as he does a lot), and I told him to stop. He didn’t and I got angry at him and I jumped at him trying to hit him. He hit me in the arm a few times and I swung back at him and I hit him in the face! I didn’t realise straight away but then he started bleeding! He wasn’t happy obviously and said no one had done that to him before.
I have apologised many times, but still feel bad. He has blood on his jacket and I offered to pay for a new one, but explained that I didn’t want to make amends just by paying him off. I offered to let him hit me back but he said no, he said to just go to bed. I feel so bad though, I’ve never done that to anyone before! I was drunk and pissed off that he kept poking fun at me and smacking me, but that was still no reason to react that way.
So answer me this, how can I make it up to him? He’s a good friend and I don’t want him to remain upset at me, but I don’t know what to do. I also don’t want him and our friends thinking I’m a violent person, I would never intentionally do that to him. Please help!
Readers, go to the comments and suggest means for Nick to restore his friendship. Be sure not to make him angry.
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December 1, 2011 at 4:35 pm |
Smack him on the ass all night and see how he reacts, or punch him on the back of the head to even the blow up or punch him even harder and let him know it was only play fighting before…
December 1, 2011 at 12:38 pm |
Just tell him he was annoying and you were drunk, that you’re sorry, and that he needs to stop being such a sensitive little princess. Simples.
December 1, 2011 at 10:50 am |
He’s fair game. He repeatedley hits you upon the bottom, then about the body, and is surprised – after you’ve told him to stop – that he then clock him back?
Sod him.
December 1, 2011 at 10:27 am |
He obviously has unspoken feelings for you. Perhaps you could offer a sexual favour by way of making up- it would show you are sincerely sorry and make him feel better about his subdued sexualality.
December 1, 2011 at 10:24 am |
Your friend sounds like a bit of a douch, Im not saying I advocate the use of violence, but sounds like he wasnt gonna stop unless you did something about it… least he wont do it again? 🙂