I will love you, in six to eight months’ time


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Help a lover out, readers: apply yourselves to this problem from Anonymous Girl:

I’ve been seeing this lovely guy for about five months. He’s very affectionate and sweet and caring, but he’s never told me he loves me.

I’m too scared to say I love him and risk some terrible knockback, and for all I know he might feel the same way. Or maybe he just doesn’t love me, yet. Or maybe he never will!

What should I do? What’s the normal time to tell someone you love them?

When you’re drunk.

Any other suggestions? To the comments, people!

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9 Responses to “I will love you, in six to eight months’ time”

  1. Aled Humphreys Says:

    Wait until he says a funny joke. Or bring up a moment of nostalgia. That got me going with one of my exes anyway! 😀

  2. Chinasa Says:

    Try squeezing it into a semi-sarcastic conversation/comment or while you two are having a laugh so if it backfire you can always claim you were joking or being sarcastic anyways…

  3. Leveret Says:

    That’s pretty offensive Beth…

  4. Beth Says:

    This is something that I’ve come across quite a lot, and I think a lot of it is to do with your family background – some people are very huggy and affectionate and vocal about their emotions, and some people are just not. We call them English people.

    But seriously, it’s about how he behaves towards you – surely it’s better to have someone who treats you like a goddess but is a bit repressed and English about actually putting how they feel into words than someone who tells you he loves you all the time but then treats you like crap? Remember, actions speak louder than words!

  5. Anonymous Says:

    Just say it, but don’t say it expecting him to say it back right away or you’re in for an awkward situation.

  6. Leveret Says:

    A lot of people cheapen the phrase by saying it when they don’t really mean it. Personally I think if either of you is in doubt, it’s better not said than said.

    The main rule is don’t say it unless you think the other person is ready to hear it, because you might scare them off unnescessarily. Give them time to reach the same point as you: wait until either A) you feel that they feel the same way and are maybe just having the same apprehensions as you or B) you’ve given them quite enough time and are prepared for the relationship to go tits up if they don’t feel the same way.

  7. Catherine Says:

    I hope I’m wrong, but I would say, get out now. If he hasn’t said it by now, he’s not going to.

  8. :O Says:

    If you feel it, say it. It’s quite literally as simple as that.

  9. tim Says:

    The best time to tell someone you love them is after you have done something very wrong. why not deliberatly do something wrong E.G. key his car. then tell him you love him. then if he says he loves you back everything is good and if he doesnt then at least you have just key’d his car!!

    PS i take no responsiblilty for any damage to cars or relationships

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